What They Don’t Teach You In College

You WILL get a job… eventually. It takes time. Depending on your major, you may get a job before you graduate or you may have to wait 6 months to a year until that first offer rolls around. Sure, the fact you had 6 internships and tons of activities looks great… but getting a job really depends on timing and luck. Most post-grads look the same on paper.

Save your money… or at least some of it. If you don’t get a job after you graduate, you will be broke and wishing you bought 1 less drink at the bar every time you went out senior year. Even if you do a get a job, when loans kick in as well as rent and other bills, you’ll be wishing you had a savings account (small or large) to back you up.

When he’s just not that into you. If he’s not responding to your text messages, stop texting him. If he is only calling you after midnight on weekends, stop answering. If he won’t dub you as an exclusive pair after two months, forget him. If he breaks up with you, don’t go running after him. What’s meant to be will be.

Keeping in touch with people is hard work. As I’m sure you learned during college, keeping in touch with friends is hard. The only difference between keeping in touch with friends from home during college and keeping in touch with college friends after you graduate, is that you knew you would be seeing your friends from home every summer… every break… and every holiday. After college, there will never be a time you and all of your college friends will be heading ‘home’ – because college is not your home anymore. Sure, there is alumni weekend, but people are busy now. People live on opposite sides of the country. People have different work schedules. It’s hard for everyone to get the same exact weekend off. If you want to stay in touch with people, you have to work for it. And if you’re the only one putting in the effort, forget it. Who is meant to stay in your life will.

Stop buying multiple cheap, trendy dresses and shirts. They will be out of style next year and you’ll be kicking yourself over where that money went. Put that money towards a fun trip, clothes that will last, or your savings.

Interning after graduating isn’t a crime. Don’t be embarrassed if you take an internship after college. Not only does the job market suck, but it’s competitive. So competitive that you might need that internship to get considered for a full-time job. And getting experience while job searching is much better than sitting on the couch.

The little things don’t matter. After college, no one will know or care if you lost a competition, almost failed a class, or didn’t make the dean’s list. All that will matter is what you DID do. You graduated, you interned, and you participated in tons of activities. And now, with the help of the internet, you can make a name for yourself without even getting that first job. Everyone is good at something – especially if you were able to graduate from college. So find out what that is and go for it. It doesn’t matter who you were… all that matters is who you will become.

Everything happens for a reason. This took me the longest to learn. I used to cry over boys who didn’t want anything beyond the occasional 3am booty call. I used to sulk over jobs I was rejected from. I used to get upset when I would lose touch with friends. Now I know that there is a reason for everything. I didn’t get that job because I was supposed to get this one. I didn’t date that boy because I’m supposed to be with another (and because he just wasn’t that into me). And I didn’t stay friends with that person because I had to make room for others. You can’t be upset when things don’t go as ‘planned.’ Welcome to post-grad life. It’s spontaneous. You can’t plan anything.

Samantha Matt

Hi I’m Sam. I made this website in 2011 and it’s still going. My first book, AVERAGE IS THE NEW AWESOME, is coming out in January (you can buy it right now on Amazon or from your fave bookstore!). I like pizza, French fries, barre, spin, more pizza, more French fries, and buying clothes. Writing is fun. Follow me on twitter & Instagram at @samanthamatt1... and on this site's meme account on IG at @20somethingproblems. OKAY GREAT THANKS BYE.

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