Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that power couple, Taylor Swift and Calvin Harris, have broken up. Several people were shocked because the pair had not only just celebrated their one year anniversary with a home baked cake, courtesy of Taylor, but they were also everyone’s couple goals — the new Brangelina, if you will. I was surprised as well because they seemed really happy, and it was the first time Taylor was so public and honest about one of her relationships.
That being said, none of us actually know what is going on behind the scenes. Reports say that Calvin didn’t envision a future with a wedding and kids, so Taylor made the decision to end things. It seemed like things were fine, especially when Calvin tweeted, “The only truth here is that a relationship came to an end & what remains is a huge amount of love and respect.” Seeing that tweet, I gained respect for Calvin, because he didn’t sound bitter. He gave me the idea that they ended amicably.
However, it didn’t take long for things to get ugly.
It all started on Wednesday, June 15, when candid (but according to some, suspiciously staged) pictures came out of Taylor and actor Tom Hiddleston roaming the beach together and getting intimately cozy.
The pictures showed them holding hands, cuddling, and even locking lips. No one is really sure what happened between then and the day we found out about the Tayvin breaking up, but it sure didn’t look friendly because both Taylor and Calvin started deleted their cute Instagram photos of each other, as well as tweets.
The Internet, of course, had a lot to say about this, and it didn’t take long for the sexist and downright rude remarks about Taylor being a serial dater to start up again. But, seriously, she is allowed to get over a break up any way she pleases!
Here are 5 reasons why the Internet needs to stop criticizing Taylor and her dating life.
1. It’s genuinely none of our business.
Because she’s a celebrity, many of us feel like we have a right to know about her dating life, but we don’t. She doesn’t owe any of us that.
2. Guys do it too.
Male celebrities, like Leonardo DiCaprio, John Mayer, and Justin Timberlake to name a few, have dated a lot of women, yet they don’t get ostracized by the public. But no one thinks twice before calling Taylor, or any woman with more than 1 boyfriend a year, out.
3. Her honesty is taken advantage of.
All musicians constantly talk about how personal their songs are, but for some reason when Taylor does it, people call her whiney and attention seeking.
4. Not all of her songs are love songs.
And even if they are, who cares? She’s a 26 year old girl — what else is she supposed to write about? Any musician — female or male — is allowed to write about whatever they please. Taylor has written many songs that weren’t about a relationship or breakup (“Ronan,” “Never Grow Up,” “Innocent,” “Tied Together With a Smile,” etc.) It astounds me that people use this as an argument. 99% of the music industry writes about love, breakups, and sex, yet when Taylor does it, people find it annoying.
5. She can do what she wants.
Like most people, Taylor’s just looking for the one. She’s a hopeless romantic, as she has confessed several times, so it doesn’t surprise me that she dates. Dating around is the norm for average people (I mean, Tinder exists), so why is it so taboo to date multiple people if you’re a celebrity? I know people who date several people throughout the year (sometimes more than one at once!), but if Taylor Swift has a boyfriend a two, back to back, she’s suddenly a slut? She’s beautiful, successful, and seems extremely nice. I’m not surprised she’s got guys knocking on her door all the time. So, seriously, you guys – let’s leave Taylor alone.