On TV, the real world seemed fun. Kind of. So, I thought the real world would be fun. Kind of. Here are 10 things I was so totally wrong about when I graduated college.
1. “Getting a job will be soooo easy.“
With four internships and a number of extra-curricular activities on my resume, I thought prospective employees would look at my experience and hire me on the spot, but no. I wasn’t offered a job until 8 months after partaking in two more post-college internships. The struggle was real.
2. “I’m going to save SO MUCH MONEY when I start working full-time.”
I thought that when I went from making nothing to making real-people-money at a real-person-job, I would be able to put the majority of my income into savings for future expenses. But no. Suddenly there were all of these expenses, and all of these dresses I wanted from Urban Outfitters. Five years later, the same problem stands even though I’m making before. This is because when you make more, you spend more. #Fact.
3. “I’m going to have a gigantic group of friends forever.“
Five years after graduating, I am now only close with five people from college. And as for friends from home, I’ve lost touch with a significant amount. Who knew that it wouldn’t possible to stay in touch with “30 close friends” after moving to different locations all over the country and becoming busy with LIFE?!
4. “There is no need to make friends at work because I have enough friends IRL.“
Life becomes busier with every day as you graduate college. Not to mention, you start to change as a person too. And as soon as you stop binge drinking on the reg, you will have a lot less in common with a good chunk of people that you binge drank on the reg with. Work friends are great replacements for these people because 1. you actually have something in common and 2. even though your busy, life gives you 8+ hours a day to see these people without having to fit them in your schedule.
5. “I will never become the type who comes home from work and has a glass of wine.“
I thought I would never be able to give up my vodka/sprite drinks. Little did I know, I would eventually replace vodka with wine, and I would be happy with it.
6. “I will probably be engaged by 25.“
I figured by this age, I would be ready to settle down and maybe even move to the suburbs. Although some people at my age are ready to get engaged — some even ready to have their first, second, or third child, I am not. At 26, I still feel like I’m young AF. Maybe not vodka-shot-taking young, but young enough to still not know exactly I want in life.
7. “I’ll definitely start having kids before I turn 30.“
As I continue to edge closer to 30, I realize how CLOSE I actually am to 30 and how a child just isn’t in the cards for me right now. I’m 26 and I can barely even take care of myself.
8. “I’ll never be able to refer to my childhood home as my parent’s home. It’s my home too!“
I now call my apartment “home” and the place I grew up and called home for 21-23 years “my parent’s home.” Finally I’ve realized that they put a roof over my head all those years and I am grateful for that. And they say all millennials are spoiled…
9. “My youth is over.“
It was just beginning. When I graduated, I deemed anyone who had graduated before me “old.” It took me five years to realize that I wasn’t old when I graduated and that at age 26, I’m not old now.
10. “Those were the best four years of my life. Life will never be this good again.“
Five years after graduating, I no longer miss college. Sure I miss my friends and the bagels from the local bakery, but I don’t miss the binge drinking or the sleeping in or the homework. I am a different person now. I have different interests. I want different things. When I left school, I thought that my life as I knew it was over. But I was wrong. Life certainly didn’t stay the same after I graduated college, but it didn’t get worse. I’m as happy now as I was then.
Who knew that five years later the queen of Captain Morgan shots and dancing on tables would prefer drinking wine on the couch over tequila shots at the club? Sure I still go out, but my definition of fun has changed and I know it will change even more in the years to come. I know there is so much more I am wrong about and I can’t wait to find out.