Here’s What New Year’s Eve Is *Really* Like At Each Age In Your 20s

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New Year’s Eve is hands down the most overrated holiday in the existence of holidays. It’s first flaw is that it comes after Christmas. It’s second flaw is that it tries to compete with other party holidays like July 4th and Memorial Day, but those holidays occur when the weather is nice out—not when there are frostbite warnings. It’s third flaw is that it’s trying way too hard. We’re expected to get dressed up to do literally the same thing we do every time we socialize, and we have to drink champagne, which gives me fierce heartburn.

As a 29-year-old female, I can now officially recite the story of “New Year’s Eves of Sam’s Past” and it’s both a scary and relatable tale. Below you will find how I spent each NYE in my 20s. The scene changes but the thought process remains the same. It’s a story of realization and finding one’s true self at the bottom of a couch cushion under a faux fur blanket.

Here is a look at New Year’s Eve at every age in your (I mean my) 20s.


 

20:

Finding a party when everyone is home for winter break is like being in high school again. All of your friends’ parents are tired from raising kids that are now 20, so that means no house party. You can’t go to a bar because they’re strict on NYE and you could lose your fake ID. You’re left waiting until the day of to make plans, which consist of you and 16 of your friends going to your friends’ friends’ friends’ random off-campus house party at a nearby college where you get drunk, puke, and end up crashing on your friends’ parent’s couch.

 

21:

You can FINALLY legally go out, but your friends can’t decide on a bar because everyone wants to spend the night differently. You finally decide on a random bar that only has a $20 cover because you’re way too poor to pay the expensive covers at the “real” bars.  You get a sparkly dress and a bunch of cheap champagne for the pre-game and spend your night doing the same thing you do every weekend: blacking out at a bar. You get pizza after and assume future NYEs will be better when you can actually afford to go to a cool place.

 

22:

Your friends decide on a place to pre-game, but don’t decide on a bar because they all cost money and you can’t even afford a $10 cover. After pre-gaming, you wander in to a dive bar where you’re completely overdressed. You get black out drunk and then end up at McDonalds. The next morning you look back on the night before and think, WOW THAT WAS THE BEST NYE EVER, but that’s only because you don’t remember it because you blacked out.

 

23:

You have some money to spend, so you search online for an awesome bar to go to. Your friends won’t commit to a bar though because they’re all waiting for better plans to come along. You finally say fuck this and get tickets to a bar for $60 with a few friends. You arrive to the bar in a fierce outfit (AKA you upgraded your dress choice from Forever 21 to Urban Outfitters), but you find the passed apps are already gone and the champagne toast is a joke. However, the party favors are lit. You get black out drunk so you assume you had fun, but you remember how crowded it was so you vow to never do one of these lame bar parties on New Year’s Eve ever again.

Here’s me on NYE at 23. Shoutout to the girl who just bought this dress from my Poshmark store.

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24:

You won’t go to a bar and no one you know has an apartment that is big enough for a party so you’re left with no plans. Luckily at the last minute, a friend comes through with an invite to an open bar party at a bar. It’s fun, but you felt sick all week because it’s cold out so you don’t get black out. You go home before 1am. You begin to realize New Year’s Eve is not actually that much fun—you’ve just been getting black out drunk on the night every year. Hmmm….

 

25:

You’re confused about how to celebrate. You’re as close to 20 as you are to 30 so it still acceptable to get black out drunk off of cheap champagne, or should you be classy and get tipsy off a bottle of Dom P? Can you wear a sparkly dress with tights, or should you wear something more appropriate for the weather outside which calls for sixteen layers of sweaters? Do you even want to go out? Do you even have friends that want to go out? Speaking of friends, what happened to all of them??? You wait until the last minute to make plans and go to a nice dinner with a few friends. It’s nothing special, but you are now well aware that NYE is nothing special, so it’s fine. You just wish you had money and friends to go to a black tie party or something. One day…

 

26:

At the last minute, a friend decides to have people over. You call it a “party” which is funny, because 20 people at a house to you used to be a really tame pre-game. Look at how much you’ve grown! You drink some champagne. You get a little tipsy. But you go home at a decent time after midnight because you don’t want to get screwed by Uber and pay an insane surcharge.

 

27:

Your friend decides to throw a “party.” However, everyone invited is busy. Why is it that everyone always has all these big plans except you? You make it a resolution to be less free the next year. You question whether or not leaving your apartment to go to this friends’ place will be worth it since no one is going. Is it worth getting stuck with an insane Uber surcharge fee? Is it worth getting dressed instead of staying on the couch in sweatpants? Is it worth drinking calories when your metabolism is slow as fuck now? You decide to go out, but you end up getting too dressed up, eating too much cheese, drinking too much wine, and paying too much for Uber. You feel like you’re getting too old for this shit now. Help.

HEY EVERYONE, COME SEE HOW OVERDRESSED I REALLY WAS ON NYE AT 27. I’m the second one in from the left.

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28:

You try to make plans, but the single people don’t want to be around the couples, so you give up. You surrender to a last-minute gathering at a friend’s place with everyone who didn’t have plans, including you, because you still manage to always be free when everyone else is doing cool shit. You don’t drink too much because you want to work out the next day and you’ve been eating shit for the entire week so you feel bloated and gross. The entire time you’re out, you wish you were at home on your couch under a faux fur blanket in sweatpants watching Netflix. You leave immediately after midnight. You don’t even care that the Uber surcharge was 6x. You just want to go home.

 

29:

Instead of trying to find plans this year, you avoid finding plans. You would love to go out if you had a really cool black tie party to attend or if your friends rented out a bar. The problem: you have no black tie party to attend because you never became wildly rich in your 20s and you literally lost the majority of your friends over the past 10 years so you don’t know enough people to fill a rented bar. All you want to do this year is drink a wine, have a cheese, and wake up the next morning so you can go to SoulCycle and stomach a salad. But next year, you would like to be rich so you can throw a wild black tie party for all the friends you don’t have anymore or go on vacation. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR? IS IT? Maybe NYE gets better and classier in your 30s? I guess we’ll see.

Why It’s Totally Okay To Stay In Tonight—And Why It Doesn’t Mean You’re Boring

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Unbeknownst  to your college self, sometimes people stay in. Yes – that means they don’t go out. On a Friday night, sometimes people are SO tired that they just want to put on sweatpants, get in bed, and turn on whatever movie is on ABC Family (I’m totally not talking about what I did last night… or am I?).

In college, staying in was not an option. Maybe you did it once – or twice – to study for a final or to sleep off a nasty hangover from the night before… but it was pretty much frowned upon. FOMO (fear of missing out) was at it’s peak. Every weekend your mind screamed at you to go out. It constantly pressured you, ‘who KNOWS what you will miss out on at the bar tonight or at that overcrowded house party down the street!’

After experiencing 4 years of FOMO, I can justify that you most likely wouldn’t have missed out on anything if you stayed in that one night sophomore year or that one weekend senior year. Instead of hooking up with someone you shouldn’t have… or drinking yourself to getting diagnosed with strep throat at the health center… you could have been resting so you would be well enough for the next night and/or getting some work done so you wouldn’t have to pull an all nighter before classes on Monday.

In the real world, we are much more aware of the silliness of FOMO. Not only will we not be missing out on anything if we stay in next Friday night, we don’t exactly have anything to miss out on. Our lives are not as exciting as they were in college. And that’s fine. Actually, it’s awesome. Staying in helps us stay healthy (have you ever wondered why you haven’t missed the convenience of the health center since you graduated?). It helps us catch up on our lives. It helps us actually be able to get stuff done the next day, rather than moping around with a vicious hangover.

I’m not saying that people should stay in all the time – that is certainly not okay. We are in our twenties. This is pretty much the last decade we have to live it up and not be compared to one of the real housewives of New Jersey (ahh! anything but that!). As a twenty something, you have to go out on a regular basis and have fun with your friends (old and new). There’s no need to rush the process of growing up. Enjoy your youth… please.

If you still go out on a regular basis, taking a few weekend nights to yourself is perfectly fine. There are only two days now for us to get all our errands and extra things we do done (Saturday and Sunday). Most of us go into work early and leave work late during the week, barely leaving any time for the gym – nevermind errands. And if we’re hungover all the time during the weekend, how are we supposed to get anything done? We can’t.

Life isn’t like it was in college anymore. We know that. Meaning that staying in sometimes is fine. Work is tiring. Errands are necessary. And rest is essential to avoiding illness (which you can’t have right now… work is just too crazy!). Sometimes even if we want to go out, none of our friends will be able to… so we are forced to stay in away. In order to get over comparing your new life to your college life, forget about FOMO (it doesn’t exist)… make sure you’re going out at least a few times a month (you should try to go out at least once a weekend, but obviously this can’t always happen – especially if you have to work on the weekend – sigh)… rest up so you don’t get sick…  and have fun being young. Know that it is okay to stay in sometimes. As long as you’re still having fun, don’t get depressed thinking that you’re ‘so boring now’ and that ‘your life sucks.’ You’re not boring and your life doesn’t suck. You’re in you twenties. Live it up… with a few breaks here and there!

8 Thoughts I Have About New Year’s Eve In My Late 20s Compared To My Early 20s

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At the beginning of 2016 on January 1st, I looked at myself in my full length mirror and said: this is the Year of Sam.

I was about to give two weeks notice at my old job. I then spent all of my money on a vacation before starting my new job that was supposed to pay me that money back and more. Then, that position didn’t work out, and I was unemployed for half the year. Although doing nothing for six months was fucking fantastic, getting paid would have been better. Things continued to spiral in both my personal life and in the news – other than the fact I got a new job and got engaged. But then I learned I couldn’t afford the wedding I desired, so that sucked.

Now, here we are again. It’s almost January 1st of 2017, and I refuse to refer to this year as the year of Sam, or the year of anything because WHO KNOWS what will happen next. This is why New Year’s Eve is the most overrated, overhyped holiday of all time. Each year on December 31st we celebrate the fact that tomorrow is coming – even though tomorrow comes at the end of every day, literally. And we HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING.

I didn’t think like this when I was younger. New Year’s Eve was party time, and I was always SO excited to ring in the new year. I never thought about what it could bring, other than positivity and good change. Now that I’m older, I’ve become much more negative. I am basically on my way to becoming a bitter, cynical, elderly Jewish woman. Which I guess is #science, since I am both getting older and I am Jewish.

All New Year’s Eve means is we’re getting older and time is going by too fast, much like birthdays. This year, I plan to treat it like any other weekend night, because I want to pretend life isn’t flying by. I also have trouble staying up until midnight sometimes so that’s a thing.

Here are 7 thoughts I had about New Year’s Eve in my early 20s versus the thoughts I have now, at age 28, in my late-20s.


 

1. On where to go

Early 20s: Everywhere is so expensive! Let’s go to that same bar we go to every weekend. It’s only $50, and you get party hats and a champagne toast! What a deal!

Late 20s: I refuse to pay anything to get into a bar. I would go on vacation or do a nice dinner or sit on someone’s couch. Or all of the above.

 

2. On what to wear

Early 20s: Sparkles! Glitter! Forever 21! Rent the Runway! Even if we’re going to a dive or going to someone’s trashy apartment, I’m going to douse myself in fanciness.

Late 20s: Can I wear yoga pants? Or at least a sweater? It’s cold out.

 

3. On 7 people sitting on a couch

Early 20s: Staying in.

Late 20s: A party!

 

4. On going out

Early 20s: We have to get to the bar by 8pm??? That is way too early.

Late 20s: Come over at 630pm!

 

5. On getting around on NYE

Early 20s: We’ll figure it out!!!

Late 20s: I’m afraid to leave my house because of Uber’s surcharges… *Everyone races to try and invite people over their place first so they don’t have to leave home*

 

6. On midnight

Early 20s: Midnight is at the beginning of the night. The real question is what are we doing AFTER midnight?

Late 20s: I can’t remember the last time I stayed out until midnight!

 

7. On New Year’s Day

Early 20s: Let’s do brunch! Hopefully I won’t be too hungover and have to cancel, lololol!

Late 20s: I’m going to work out, run errands, the usual. Definitely can’t drink too too much this year, don’t want to start the year off hungover.

 

8. On Resolutions

Early 20s: I’m going to lose weight, be organized, drink less, cook more, and be a nicer person this year!

Late 20s: Fuck resolutions. I’m just going to continue doing me this year. Tomorrow is just another day after all.

How Red Bull Vodka Ruined My Mid-20s

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When I was 25, I only drank red bull vodka. I think it was because I was really tired from being 24, but still wanted to act like I was 23. Because of this, I drank energy drinks mixed with hard liquor in order to keep myself from falling asleep at the bar. It wasn’t good, but luckily I figured that out. And as soon as I turned 26, it was goodbye RBVs and hello wine. Then I turned 27, and it was hello couch, because no one wanted to go out anymore. Sigh.

Back to being 25. This age was a struggle. I was in the middle of a severe quarter life crisis. I was trying to figure out where I wanted to live, what I wanted to do for a career, who I wanted to be with, and who I wanted to be friends with. It was a lot, and it made me tired.

Now, at age 28, I’m not sure why I was freaking out so much at 25. I wasn’t old. I was YOUNG. I feel like 25 was the beginning – not the middle, and certainly not the end. It’s funny how three years later, I am having the same freak outs once again, thinking this is ‘the end.’ Please someone write in the comments telling me how young I am and how 28 is actually the beginning (someone, please, really, I beg).

I thought I was SO OLD at 25, and that the only way I could get through a night out was by drinking red bull vodka. I drank it all the time, even though I knew it was kind of dangerous and usually didn’t end well for me.

One night, for example, I was in a caffeinated frenzy running around at a bar. The next thing I knew, I woke up on my bedroom floor on a pile of clothes that I had taken out of one of my dresser drawers to throw up in. Why did I throw up in the dresser drawer? Why didn’t I go to the bathroom? Why didn’t I sleep in my bed? These are all great questions that I cannot answer because red bull vodka literally stole my memory.

This *may* have been the lowest point in life thus far, excluding the time I slept through a fire alarm sophomore year of college and the RA came in to find me covered in throw up. Mind you, she slow faded right out of my room and pretended she didn’t see anything. #College. There was also the time I put a bagel in the microwave for 10 minutes freshman year, leading to the fire alarm going off on the school’s first snow day in like 1,000 years. Side note: my lowest point ever may actually have been eating bagels.

Regardless of what takes the victory for my lowest life point, many of my nights spent drinking RBVs fall somewhere in the top 10.

At 28, I certainly don’t go out as much as I did when I was 25, but I don’t need red bull vodka to get me through a night out. Some nights when I’m not tired, I can start drinking semi-early and hang until late. Maybe I’ll start with a wine. Maybe I’ll chill with a cider. Maybe I’ll dabble in a spiked seltzer. Maybe I’ll get really crazy and have a a mixed vodka drink (or two, or five). Whatever the case, all of these things taste good and make me a normal drunk – two thinks RBVs did not.

This may all be because red bull vodkas are apparently just as bad for you as cocaine. So drinking 5-6 RBVs in one night could possibly be equivalent to a shit ton of cocaine, and well, that’s probably not great.

If you’re in the middle of a quarter life crisis – whether you’re 22, 25, 28, 30, or 35, don’t use red bull vodka to make you more energized when you find yourself out and tired AF. Just, like, sit down. Or go home. There’s no reason to force yourself into staying out when you’re not feeling it. Especially if you’re going to drink RBVs and become a hot mess.

Tbh, a night on the couch binge watching a TV show on Netflix is infinitely better than waking up sick after a night spent black out, making a fool out of yourself, with 0-40% memory of what happened the night before. I’m 28 and wise now, so you should probably listen to me.

 

 

7 Ways To Wear Fall Fashion Now

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The dog days of summer are certainly here, and retail stores are already starting to sell boots and jackets and, *gasp*, sweaters. While it’s still too damn hot to wear fall fabrics, it’s never too early to get a head start on those fall trends. This season’s fall fashion went wild with texture, pattern, and color, and while it may seem overwhelming, have no fear! FTS is here to help you make bold patterns and brocade totally wearable.

Here’s how to make fall trends summer-ready for all occasions.


 

1. Office Wear

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For the traditional office, find freedom in guidelines. Ruffles soften up a bold patterns, and longer hemlines/higher necklines just add more room for that pattern to be on display

Pair with: contrast the bold ruffles and patterns with patent leather kitten heels and a sleek top knot.

 

2. Office wear for the office that includes a French press and hammock

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For all you lucky creative types, play with mixing textures and patterns. The the top from Nordstrom balances structure with silk, while the latter look from J. Crew proves that florals and stripes make a happy couple. For beginners at mixing patterns, try pairing a large print with a small print, and keep it in the same color family.

Pair with: colorful jewelry or a bold lip. Or both. You can do it!

 

3. Weekend

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The weekend is for dog walks and pure comfort. Combine fall patterns and color blocking with airy fabrics to keep it cool during the outdoor summer days.

Pair with: slim fit capris and canvas pointed-toe flats.

 

 

4. Date night

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Gorgeous print with surprising cutouts? We’re in love. Up the romance with floral patterns, soft fabrics, and scalloped edges.

Pair with: loose curls and soft blush–natural beauty is all the rage.

 

 

5. Party night out

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Make a statement you can feel. Bold textures can be the perfect experiment for a night out with the squad. Play around with 3D feathers, fringe, and flowers.

Pair with: thin stilettos (they’re back!) and your favorite dark denim pants.

 

 

6. Errand running/loungewear

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When comfort is all that matters, bright pants and fuzzy fur are all that satisfy. Fur? But it’s warm! When you’re waiting at the air-conditioned DMV for way too long or walking through the freezer aisle of the supermarket, you’ll be glad you brought your chic jacket along.

Pair with: bare face and slide slippers.

 

 

7. Brunch with the girls

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Morning (if you can make it that early) brunch calls for that rare combo of cute and easy. Complimentary colors on a jersey skirt go great with mimosas, and mimic the richness of brocade with an embroidered dress.

Pair with: chunky gold jewelry and neutral sandals–and dry shampoo.


 

Fall fashion calls for bold patterns and rich bright colors–get a head start on the trends by combining them with airy summer fabrics and shapes. Most importantly, remember to always wear what you love, no matter the season!

How To Adjust To Life After College, AKA The Recent Grad’s Guide To Happiness

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No one teaches you how to live your life after you graduate from college. Professors teach you things that may or may not help you once you get a job in your desired field, but they don’t teach you how to get that job. They don’t teach you how hard it will be to get that job. They don’t teach you office etiquette and how to master sitting a cubicle all day long. They also don’t teach you how to save money after college graduation, or help you figure out where to live and how to let go of being supported by your parents.

Basically, when you graduate, you’re on your own. I guess that’s the real world though, right? Here are 5 important steps that may help you adjust to life after college.


 

1. If you can, move back home (for a few).

If you don’t want to grow up quite yet (I mean, who does?), moving back home is the perfect way to delay ‘the real world.’ Not to mention, you’ll be saving a ton of money that you probably don’t have. There are definitely times moving out right after college is okay: perhaps you received a job offer somewhere not close to your home, maybe you have the funds to move without a job offer, or maybe your parents don’t want you there. But ultimately, if you get a job offer near your home, you have a car/other mean(s) of transportation, and you can survive there for a few, suck it up and move back home.

 

2. Learn the difference between a job and an internship.

They are very different. Even though some companies use the word ‘internship‘ in the place of  ‘real-job-that-we-just-aren’t-going-to-pay-you-for,’ when applying for a real job, it’s way more competitive than the intern selection process. You have to spend more time writing your cover letters. You have to spend more time adjusting your resume to match each job. And when it comes to the interview, you have to sound like you have 3-5 years of experience, even though you don’t. Then, when you do start working, you’re not going to have the guidance that you had at your internship. You can’t go around asking what to do anymore. You need to know what to do – even if that sometimes is nothing. You’ll find that you will teach yourself a lot and be expected to know more than you do. But don’t feel intimidated. No one knows – or cares – how old you are anymore. So take the chance to show how mature and smart you are. You’re a college grad after all!

 

3. Get over the fact that your job has no end date.

You should be happy you aren’t an intern or co-op anymore! If you weren’t getting paid, now you are (or will be… soon). And if you were already getting paid, you will probably get paid more. Oh, and you will now be recognized as a real person, instead of having people look down on you for being a silly little intern. You’re in the big leagues now. Anything can happen. Your current job can last forever or you can get laid off. You can get fired (although I really hope you won’t) or you can choose to leave your own job for another (or to, like, start your own farm or something). Your life is no longer based on that schedule called school, so be spontaneous and don’t fear commitment. Whatever happens, happens.

 

4. Be thankful for your family.

Obviously everyone’s situations are different, but whatever yours may be, learn to love your family. If you’re moving back home after college, be grateful you still have a room there and can get by with free food and no rent payments until you do decide to grow up. If your parents are willing to fund your ‘groovy lifestyle’ (Yes – that was a ‘Girls’ quote), take advantage. Don’t head home after college with a bad attitude. Don’t take out a bad interview or a rejection e-mail on your mom. Your parents just paid a ridiculous amount of money for you to get a piece of paper! And if they didn’t pay for it, at least they supported you along the way. As I’m sure you’ve seen from attending school for 16 years, friends come and go… but your family (fortunately or unfortunately) is going to be around forever. If you’re not living with them anymore, keep in touch. The worst thing you can do is fall off the grid after they just made your life happen for the past, like, 21/22 years. Be grateful.

 

5. Relax and have fun.

Just because college ended, doesn’t mean your life did too. Just because you can’t find a job yet, it doesn’t mean you never will. Just because you hate your job, it doesn’t mean you will be stuck there forever. Just because you’re working with adults who are married with children, it doesn’t mean you have to grow up twice as quickly and fast forward your life to that point too. You’re still young. You might not be in college anymore, but that doesn’t mean you can’t drink on weeknights. It doesn’t mean you can’t have one night stands. It doesn’t mean you have to stop standing in long lines at clubs and start going to late dinners with friends ordering classy drinks. All it means is that you can now make money and not have to worry about papers and tests (unless you’re in grad school). Soon enough, you won’t be in your early twenties and you won’t be in your mid-twenties. You’ll be in your late twenties, possibly married thinking about having KIDS. So for now, you’ve got a bit of time until that all happens. Relax and enjoy it!