As I enter the “mid-twenties” of my timeline, I’ve been reflecting on things that I had learn on my own. No one told me these things. Some of them are light and funny, others more serious. They’re all important in their own way.


1. Never let anyone else pick out a hair color for you.

2. Turning 21 is fun for about a month or two. Then everything just gets expensive

3. “Types” are a crock of shit. Open yourself up to all possibilities for love and romance.

4. Spend your money on basic wardrobe essentials instead of trendy things. Trends fade, style is forever.

5. You’ll continue to make new friends. Don’t hold onto toxic friendships for fear of being friendless.

6. Being “alone” and being “lonely” are two entirely different situations that just happen to have similar sounding terminologies.

7. Your college major probably won’t matter in the real world. Study what you love.

8. Take risks, take chances, take a leap of faith. You’ll regret it more if you don’t.

9. Keep in touch with your friends. They’re going to move, get married, have kids. It’s not easy. But it’s worth the effort.

10. Parents know what they’re talking about. Listen to them

11. Staying in becomes increasingly and exponentially more desirable than going out.

12. Travel will open your eyes, your mind, your heart, and your soul. Go somewhere you’ve never been.

13. Stop looking for love. You’ll find it when you least expect it in the least expected person.

14. The hook up culture is highly overrated.

15. Nothing worth having will come easily. Work Hard.

16. You will find no better or more loyal company than a dog.

17. It is far more important to be independent and intelligent than just “pretty.”

18. You’ll learn more about the real world and its people in service jobs than at a “real job.”

19. No one ever really feels like an adult.

20. Say “no” to things you don’t want to do. It will change your life instantaneously.


A born-and-raised Jersey girl with a chronic case of wanderlust, Samantha spends her days reading, writing, and planning adventures. She currently teaches classes at the community college while living at home with her parents, trying and failing to become a part of the proverbial real world. Her dream is for someone to pay her for writing and traveling, but in reality she'll probably be teaching forever. Follow her mundane musings on Twitter @SamanthaG2012, and check out her personal blog,

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