Why I’m Moving Out When I Don’t Need To

Just as I’ve done every August since I left for freshman year of college (except last summer – but that’s kind of a blur), I’m preparing to move out of my house. This time is a little different though. I’m not packing up my stuff and purchasing new furniture to go away to school… I’m getting ready to move into my first apartment.

Okay, so it’s not the first apartment/house I’ve lived in with friends – My senior year of college I lived in an off campus house and junior year I lived in an apartment… But those weren’t “for real.” They weren’t “mine.”

In college, even when I lived off campus, we had a move in date and a move out date. I didn’t/couldn’t completely cover my rent and utilities. Our parents had to be co-signers on the lease. We went home during breaks. And best of all, the off campus houses where I went to college were furnished (Yeah, yeah… I know that wasn’t the case for everyone). So for me, this is my first time having my own apartment that I (and my friends) are fully responsible for.  There’s no move out date. Sure, the lease will end, but you can renew it – and if you don’t, you’re most likely going to move to another apartment. But for now, the move out date is whenever you want – as long as you find someone to sublet your room or pay rent when not living there. Adults don’t screw their friends over – college students don’t (or at least shouldn’t) either.

Moving out after college is definitely different – and can be a scary thing. Remember when you got dropped off at college freshman year? Okay, not THAT scary. But the money associated with moving out and the feeling of (actually) being on your own can be a little unsettling.

Do I have to move out? No. I live 25 min from work, 25 minutes from the closest city (Boston), and my boyfriend already has an apartment. I have 3 brothers, so my house is never boring, and I can pretty much do whatever I want without being questioned. In fact, I will probably get questioned more when I am not living at home. Also, when I do move out, my 17 year old brother is going to take over my room – as in all of my furniture and belongings I don’t bring with me will be put in the attic… and we all know what happens when things go in the attic. Have you SEEN Toy Story 3? Anyway,  I also make your standard entry level communications job salary… which we all know is umm, nothing. And I should totally be saving as much as I can, rather than blowing all my money on rent… Sooo, why am I moving out?

I am technically an “adult.” Sure we are still young, but we are also adults. And sleeping in that twin bed (when I’m not at my boyfriend’s apartment) is just not cutting it for me anymore. I think I’ve almost forgotten what it is like to live with friends. That kind of happens when you’ve been graduated and living at home for a year and three months.

I am a young adult. As I said before, we’re young. And this is the perfect time to try new things – one of those things being moving out. We’re young enough to move out for a year and move back home. We have quite a few years until its “weird” to still be living at home.

I have money. I’m definitely not rolling in the dough, but I can at least afford the rent money. I just won’t be able to save a lot… but a social life is worth it. And decorating an apartment ADULT style (and not college “poster-covered-walls-and-plastic-furniture” style)? Worth it.

I want more of a social life. Living at home, you forget what it was like to be in college. Friends were everywhere. Okay, so I don’t live in the middle of nowhere and most of my friends are also living at home – so it’s not as bad as some people have it. But pretty much all I do is go to the gym during the week. I don’t even talk to anyone during the week except my boyfriend and maybe a friend or two – and occasionally, I’ll have plans for dinner or something – but that is rare.

I want to have people over. I want to be the one entertaining. I want to host the pre-game. I want to put on MY iPod. I want to hang out with who I want to hang out with.

I don’t want to rely on my boyfriend’s apartment. As much as I loved it, I can’t keep sleeping at my boyfriends on the weekend and not pay rent. What if something happened between us? What if he moved home? What if he goes away for the weekend? More importantly, I want him to sleep at my place. I don’t want to shower in that shower. Sorry to all men, but girls are much cleaner.

I want to stop packing bags and being a nomad. Sometimes – most times actually – I feel like a nomad. I pack huge bags each weekend. And I’m sick of it.

I want to save gas and avoid traffic. When there is no traffic, I can get to work in 20 minutes. But when there is traffic, I can be on the road for an hour to an hour and a half. Work is much more closer to my new apartment. I also am constantly wasting gas driving ALL over the place. I’m driving home, to the gym, home, to my boyfriends, home, to work, to the gym, to home ETC. AKA I’m a nomad who spends hundreds of dollars on gas a week. Not necessary.

So if you’re struggling right now, trying to make the choice of staying at home or moving out – I know what you’re going through. Not everyone has the option to live at home after college. Some people need to move to new places/more populated areas to get their jobs. But if you do have the option to live at home while working, it’s pretty much a luxury.

The list above includes some of the pros of moving out after college… But I will be honest and tell you there are definitely cons too – A lot of people have told me to stay at home as long as I can in order to save big bucks… but sometimes you just have to sacrifice your savings for a social life and see if you can manage it. And if it doesn’t work out for you, you’re lucky to have the option of moving back home – because some people don’t.

Samantha Matt

Hi I’m Sam. I made this website in 2011 and it’s still going. My first book, AVERAGE IS THE NEW AWESOME, is coming out in January (you can buy it right now on Amazon or from your fave bookstore!). I like pizza, French fries, barre, spin, more pizza, more French fries, and buying clothes. Writing is fun. Follow me on twitter & Instagram at @samanthamatt1... and on this site's meme account on IG at @20somethingproblems. OKAY GREAT THANKS BYE.

4 Comments
  1. First, I just want to say I’m a huge fan of the blog! I just graduated from college in May and am struggling with the idea of not going back this fall. After reading the blog I think I had a similarly awesome college experience.

    After graduation this past May I moved back home and am struggling to find a job. I went to school outside of Boston and am now stuck in WMass. I am contemplating moving to Boston in hopes that a local address will help me land a full time job. I’m with you on wondering if I will really be able to afford it (will savings and a part time job or two really make it work?).

    As a fellow Forever Twenty Something, good luck with your move!

    1. Thank you Kelsey! A local address definitely helps to get you a job in that area – and you can always use a friend’s address… but don’t go putting your friend’s address on your resume until your actually ready to move! I did that for some jobs in another area when I wasn’t ready – and it’s not the best idea.

      I have some friends who moved to Boston, interviewed and waited for a few months, and ended up getting jobs. If you are fine with knowing it’s not going to happen right away (well, you never know…), then go for it! But if you can get a good entry level job in Western MA – and can live at home & save money for a while, it’s definitely worth it! As I said in my post, I live 20/25 min outside Boston – so there was no need for me to move out right away… but if you need to, it will definitely be worth it too!

      Loving the question of is moving out right away actually affordable and worth it? I think that is the making of a very fabulous post haha.

      If you ever need any job advice from a fellow Bostonian, you can email me directly at forevertwentysomethings@gmail.com 🙂 I love to help!

  2. Wow! I am moving out for the first time on my own (not including college) this week and this perfectly captures everything I’m feeling. I actually stumbled across this article after googling “is it a good idea to move out” after nerves got the best of me. I feel the same as you – stuck in one place and not fully living. I’ll be moving into NYC from the suburbs wish me luck! and thank you for your wise words!

  3. This may be an older post but it really applies to me right now. Except for the fact that I don’t have a boyfriend, because I’m male LOL. But still, so much of it is the social life aspect you mentioned, as well as traffic/gas. Most importantly, being more independent is something I can be proud of, and hopefully something I will look back on in the future and see as a major stepping stone into the “adult world”. I have money saved and will be moving out in February of 2018 with some buddies, fingers crossed!

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