New Year’s is a great time for many of us walking through life. It brings about a time of change where we get to wipe the slate clean and start our lives fresh. Even if it is technically just another date in the calendar, symbolically this day is so much more.

This should hold true for all the important aspects of our lives, especially when it comes to online dating. Its time to let go of the disappointing dates that the past year has brought, in which many of us have met women who fell nothing short of utter disappointment. With that said, if we are going to truly make sure the New Year is full of new beginnings, we need to make sure that we don’t repeat the same mistakes that were made the previous year.

Let’s discuss five changes that we should make in our online dating lives this year if we wish to find success:

1. Stop the serial dating.

Serial dating doesn’t benefit anyone. Dating as many women as possible won’t lead us to finding the right person any faster. All this will do is leave us exhausted, frustrated, and looking down at an empty wallet. Keep the dating to one person at a time and give the person a chance. If and when it turns out that this person is not the one, then move on to the next person.

2. Get Picky.

One of the biggest problems that online dating presents is that there are too many options. This leads many of us to making bad decisions, going out with women that we probably shouldn’t be going out with. Once we stop serial dating, its time to get picky, and ensure we only go out with our true potential matches.

3. Do the selecting yourself.

Stop being lazy about messaging women. I’ll be the first to admit that its easier to just wait for the messages to roll in and only talk to women who contact us first. Performing searches on our own can be exhausting and often feels like homework. But waiting for the perfect person to walk into our life is not likely.

This year, be proactive with your searching and make that extra effort to seek out the person that you want to be with. The best way to do this is to type the keywords that you are looking for into the search options, and weed out all the mismatches as much as possible before sending out messages. The biggest mistake most men make is searching solely based on looks. Don’t get caught up in the excitement of a pretty face. In the long run, you will save a lot of time and money searching the right way.

4. Have fun.

This may seem like silly advice, but as the old cliché goes, dating is supposed to be fun. Treating the act of dating as if it is a second job is not good and will send negative vibes when meeting people. Stop focusing so much on finding the future Mrs., and just have a good time. Emotions are contagious. You will be surprised how often great things happen when your attitude remains positive.

5. Reflect.

Reflect on the previous year of dating. What were your strengths? What were your weaknesses? Only you can pinpoint the changes that truly need to be made in your love life, but it all starts with being honest with yourself. So take a good look in the mirror and start getting real. It may be tough, but in the long run, you will be thankful you did when you are living that happy life you always dreamed of.

Joshua Pompey has been helping men to attract women online successfully for years. Click here for some free online dating advice, from GetREALDates.Com, home of the world’s most successful online dating guide, The REAL Online Game.



  1. This is a great list with helpful tips for anyone looking for love …. whether online or not. My husband and I met online, definitely not the most popular or traditional way at the time, but it worked for us. We were completely honest and authentic from the very first instant message together. Eleven years later, communication remains to be one of the strongholds of our relationship. We are best friends, which makes our marriage amazing …. and lots of fun.

    Happy New Year!
    Nicole @ Three 31

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