People get engaged. It happens. Especially in your twenties.
The twenty-something internet debate on engagements is honestly out of control. People are either pro-engagement or anti-engagement; there is NO middle ground. Well, that is, except for me, apparently. I like to think of myself as “indifferent” to this debate.
I can see both sides of this debate, truthfully. But why is there a debate to begin with? I feel that this is our generation’s version of “career woman versus stay-at-home mom.” I just don’t see what the big deal is.
Personally, I’ve chosen to stay single for the duration of my twenties thus far (due in no small part to the lack of male attention I receive). For me, I have to become a person with desires, passions, goals, and a game plan before I commit myself to someone else for the rest of my life. Quite honestly, I just don’t take my life that seriously…yet. I don’t have a real job yet, I don’t have my own place yet. Someday, when I have my shit together, I’ll think about settling down. For now, I’m going to create myself and figure exactly what I want from this life.
In this sense, I get the engagement haters. They think that young people shouldn’t get engaged because the world has so much to offer. I get it, I really do, because that’s how I feel about my own life. But who are you to judge someone else’s life choices?
My parents got married when they were twenty years old. Growing up, this didn’t sound weird. I planned on getting married when I graduated college at twenty-two, because that’s what everyone around me had done. When I was dating my now-ex boyfriend, we decided we would get married when we graduated, and I was totally on board with it. I’ve been there, and I get this, too. If two people are happy, in love, and want to settle down, who are you to tell them “no”?
I just wish this all would stop. I have friends who are single, friends in relationships, friends who are engaged. I love them all equally and I think they are all in great places. We don’t judge other women for their career choices, so why are we judging others for their relationship choices? I swear if I see one more post about this debate, I’m going to scream. I can’t take it anymore. If you’re happy being single, then be single. If you’re happy in a relationship, then be in a relationship. Stop with the belitting, ladies.
