Rebel Wilson, 28. In the movie Pitch Perfect Rebel Wilson’s character introduces herself as “Fat Amy”. The girls she is introducing herself to ask if she really calls herself “Fat Amy” and she responds, “Yeah, so twig b*tches like you don’t do it behind my back”. The lesson that lies within Fat Amy is that we must own ourselves. We must be proud of ourselves. We deal with societal pressure to be perfect which is absurd because no one is perfect. Not even Beyonce. As humans, we are a flawed species and there is no better way to love ourselves than to accept our flaws. Our faults make up part of who we are as individuals and in a sense when we hide our flaws we are hiding a part of who we are. Our 20’s is an interesting time in our lives. We are finding out who we are, what we like, and what we don’t like. Starting with getting to know ourselves and what makes us who we are will lead us in the right direction. Although at the end of Pitch Perfect Rebel Wilson’s character admits that her real name is Patricia so this theory could be completely flawed…

Andi Dorfman, 27. Andi has been made famous by The Bachelor and The Bachelorette. Her claim to fame was when she confronted Juan Pablo on The Bachelor about their stagnant emotional connection. She was trying to have a heart to heart with Juan Pablo but all he continuously said to her was “Is okay”. Oh, hell no. Andi didn’t go for that and neither should any other girl. Although we can sometimes feel lost during our 20’s, we shouldn’t be forgetting what we deserve in a relationship. Yes, we are learning what we want out of our lives after college but if we know a relationship isn’t growing, toss that to the side and on to the next one. Don’t let yourself be with someone that only responds “Is okay” to your emotions. Is NOT okay. We are growing and exploring and emotions are naturally a part of that. A guy shouldn’t be demeaning your feelings into nothingness. That’s when it is time to say adios.

Ronda Rousey, 27. Ronda Rousey is not just any MMA fighter. She is the UFC Bantamweight Champion, in 2008 she became the first American woman to win an Olympic medal in Judo, and she is the #1 female MMA fighter in the world. Ronda recently had a fight to defend her Bantamweight title against Alexis Davis. Title fights are 5 rounds for 5 minutes each. Ronda won the fight and defended her title against Alexis Davis within 16 seconds of the first round. Um, that is amazing. Ronda exemplifies passion, determination, and focus. Not only is she a beast, she totally dominates what she does. If everyone had this type of determination and focus we would all be champions at what we love. We don’t always find something we are passionate about easily or quickly but once we do we should immerse ourselves in it.  We should feel about our passion how Ronda Rousey feels after she defends her title in 16 seconds. On the outside you convey “Yeah, no big deal, this is just what I do” but on the inside you’re really thinking “OMFG YES”.

Jennifer Lawrence, 23. What’s not to love about Jennifer Lawrence? She’s talented, confident, funny, and she trips and has wardrobe malfunctions at award ceremonies. How does Jennifer respond to situations in which she face plants and her clothes are falling apart…usually with a statement like “Well, at least I had on underwear.” LOL. That’s exactly what we need to do – we need to “lol” at ourselves. We are going to fall, fail, get rejected, and have things not go our way. Opportunities may fall through, relationships might not last, and we will all indefinitely have bad days. There is only one thing to do to make these things better…we need to laugh at ourselves. You drop a chocolate ice cream cone on your shirt? Laugh. (Be a little upset for about 30 seconds if it’s a new shirt or if it is white because you know that stain isn’t coming out). Happen to trip over yourself in front of a hot guy? Laugh. (Or giggle…its cuter). Embarrass yourself during a job interview? Laugh, make fun of yourself, and show your personality…it will certainly make for a memorable interview. Thank you, Jennifer Lawrence for laughing at yourself and reminding all of us we need to do it more often. Giggle, chuckle, laugh so hard you snort, I don’t care, just remember “WWJD” (What Would Jennifer Do). Jennifer would probably want all of us to LOL.

Kesha, 27. I saw Kesha in concert a couple years ago; she was fun, energetic, and extremely entertaining. What I didn’t know about Kesha at the time was that she was struggling with an eating disorder. After admitting herself into rehab she wrote an essay for Elle UK about her experience. Kesha’s music is upbeat and light but her real life message is that it’s okay to ask for help. As college grads it’s easy to feel like we are on our own now but that doesn’t mean we can’t ask for help. Sometimes we still need mom and dad for financial support or a roof over our head for a little while. And other times we might feel so caught up in adulthood that we need help from a therapist or just someone to talk to. The most grown up thing we can do is ask for help when we know we need it.


Kristen Malm is a twenty-something year old Monmouth University graduate with a B.A. in English. After living on the Jersey Shore for 4 years, she is back home in CT looking for what to do next. She is obsessed with coffee, Gossip Girl, and brunch. She is also a seasonal (spring & summer) sushi and fro-yo addict. Kristen has joined in on the crossfit trend and may or may not become addicted…we will see (she probably will). Kristen enjoys history (it was her minor in college), traveling (she went to Ireland with high school classmates and England with college classmates), and watching MMA (there is just something about the anticipation of a person possibly getting knocked out…). She cares for her cat like its her child and loves listening to Spanish music even though 99% of the time she doesn't know what they are saying. Follow her on Instagram @kristenamalm !

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  1. This was really a really good read. Life is filled with struggles, demons and personal self loathing. These are modern day women that present another side of human hardships.

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