Twentysomethings are under pressure. Personally, professionally, financially, morally, and in a thousand other ways.
Economic angst is the most obvious of stressors and the most discussed. We’re supposed to be intelligent, well-read, hardworking college grads. Not pathetic, jobless leeches that still live at home watching paternity tests on Maury. Yet the latter is what has become of some of us. Many of the others lucky enough to have work are forced to toil at terrible positions.
However, financial issues are only part of the problem.
Yes, we’re expected to be successful go-getters but now we’re expected to be so much more. Societal pressures make it almost cowardly, selfish, and myopic to simply make enough money to live on your own, work for a few decades, and then retire.
You have to eat organic to stop Masanto. You have to be a vegan to stop Masanto. You have to avoid GMOs to stop Masanto. You have to avoid Coke and Pepsi and fast food places of every kind or else your cash is subsidizing (or super-sizing) the obesity epidemic. You have to exercise at least three days a week or else you’re a disgusting pig. You have to use a standing desk or else you’re a decadent, lazy piece of shit. You have to eschew mainstream clothing brands because they use sweatshop labor. You have to shop at “mom and pop” stores to starve chain locations and stop gentrification in its tracks. You have to stop using Facebook because they’re tracking you. You have to stop using Google and Gmail because they’re tracking you. You have to put your phone away because it’s bad to be “connected” all the time. You have to forgo having children because of overpopulation. The list of things that you’re “supposed” to do as a socially conscious twentysomething goes on, and on, and on.
Have. Fucking. Mercy.
This isn’t meant to come off as a complaint. Advocates of the above positions certainly have their points. Sitting back and watching things crumble is awful and if it’s in your power to do something positive, you should. Either you want to help the world, or you don’t.
However, conflicts arise when one is expected to do so many different things.
To quote Jaime Lannister in season two of Game of Thrones:
So many vows. They make you swear and swear. Defend the King, obey the King, obey your father, protect the innocent, defend the weak. But what if your father despises the King? What if the King massacres the innocent? It’s too much. No matter what you do, you’re forsaking one vow or another.
Just so, a person that reads about the world, science and current events and wants to help the Earth has such perils.
What if GMOs enable poor people in other countries to eat rather than die of starvation? What if not shopping at the chain store puts the people there out of work? What if not using Gmail hinders your professional life? What if abandoning Facebook causes you to lose touch with friends long-gone?
The zeitgeist is pushing and pulling our generation in so many different directions that we’re struggling to keep up—and that’s not even including the job hunt, interning, working, and other job-related woes.
There’s no easy answer to this conundrum, for few people have the time, money, willpower, and knowledge to be an advocate for all good causes all the time. Every person in the world has vices. If your only one is that you eat or drink something with high fructose corn syrup, you must be a pretty good person—but maybe do something to make up for it. Spread the word about Penny 4 NASA and the benefits of space exploration. Take a bike for short trips instead of using your car. Something. Anything.
We don’t all have to be supermen; we’re imperfect. But don’t use that as an excuse to be complacent.
Not to mention the guilt for not being able to do it all. Barely mention that you’re trying some new workout/diet(as a way of eating) or focusing on saving money/investing/giving back and be ready to welcome everyone’s opinion on the right way to go about it & how you’re doing it wrong. We live in an age where everyone has an opinion – which is NOT a bad thing – but we also live in an age where people things its acceptable to force theirs upon you. Next thing you know you either feel bad about what you aren’t able to do, or you’re getting defensive. Somewhere along the way we forgot to just accept who we are & what makes us happy. We don’t have to keep up with the Jones’ in the way we live our life.
Indeed. Do ANYTHING and there’s somebody out there who will give you an earful about how awful you are for doing it. Ugh.