Some marry for money. Some marry for looks. Some marry because their mom said he was the right guy and some are smart and marry their best friend.
Listen, marriage is no joke. I don’t know if anyone has ever told you but eternity is a really, really, really long time. You are going to be living with this person, breathing the same air as this person, sharing a shower with this person, facing adversity with this person, financial hardships, deaths, and life in general and who else would you want to face all those things with besides your best friend?
The man with money will shower you in gifts, pay off that basic bitch, Sallie Mae, and help you develop impeccable taste in wine but I hate to say it, after 10-15 years, you are going to get sick of all that. Sounds crazy but money won’t buy you love and his money certainly won’t pay for your divorce lawyer.
The man with looks will make all your friends jealous and will make you feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
You mean a man this hot is actually attracted to me?! But similar to the money man, looks fade and honestly, what kind of love is built on making people jealous. Ya, he’s hot, he looks good in clothes and he looks even better out of them, but good looks doesn’t equal good love. Not to mention a hair line can recede faster than Usain Bolt’s timed mile.
The man with mommy approval probably has a great job, I’m thinking doctor, lawyer, or financial advisor.
But don’t marry the guy that mom thinks is right for you. I know you value her opinion, but remember, she is from a generation where the man is always the sole provider. Listen to your heart, not your mother’s, because this is your marriage, not her’s.
The man who is your best friend will make you laugh and will laugh at your jokes because he honestly thinks you are funny. Your best friend will build you up, support you and stand by you. Your best friend is good looking because you are attracted to every inch of him, inside and out. Your best friend might not have a six figure salary but he will always provide for you the best way he can. These are the qualities of a good marriage.
Marriage means you are in it for the long hall. Do you really want to watch re-runs with the stuffy, rich guy who “just doesn’t get it” or do you want to laugh your ass off with your best friend, who without prompting laughs at everything you laugh at?
I can’t even begin to tell you how fulfilling it is to have your best friend with you, by your side, for everything life throws at you. True happiness is found with your best friend.
Life, more often than not, is going to kick you on your ass and life isn’t always going to be fair. Hell, life doesn’t really care how broke you are, how scared you are, or how upset you are. But your best friend does. He does now and he will in 40 years because that’s the duty of a best friend.
So, as cliche as it may sound, when searching for your life partner, always place value on the friendship you and your man share.
